I've been putting off writing this, coz I didn't want to give the wrong impression, and somehow my writing always does. In the end I decided I was doing it more for myself, really. If people misunderstand, I'll ... simply delete the comments.
I've been skimming all the tributes pouring in for Pn Yasmin, most of them celebrating her movies, her ads, and her life - and most lamenting that they hadn't met her and wished they had. I am one of the few privileged enough to have met her, more than briefly, and more than once, though always just for a chat. That was perhaps enough, for any more and I might have broken down a little like
a director friend of mine. Instead, I find myself still thinking about the fact that she's gone, about 48 hours after the fact.
I was thinking about it today and realised that she is almost the only person I know who passed on. In all twenty odd years of my life, no one in my immediate family and relatives have managed the feat yet. One or two acquaintances of mine have died, but they're so inconsequential to my life that when their death was announced I mustered a mild and sudden shock, and then continued with homework.
I suppose the thing to do is to do what everyone who knows her is doing nowadays - tell anecdotes of meetings with the woman.
I first came across Pn Yasmin without knowing who she was at a film forum of some sort - this must be around 2002, but I can't really remember anymore. She was there presenting a little film called
Rabun, which I have yet to see this day, but that day we were shown the opening scene of the film, which I always remembered because of how simply it was constructed, but it was done in a cute way. Later Pn Yasmin would talk about why it was difficult to release the film: because it involves a very liberal pair of old couple, which reflects Pn Yasmin's own parents (like every other film she does, she takes very closely from her own life, but disguises it enough that we don't think of it as intentionally autobiographical). At one point she described a scene she had to cut (if I remember correctly) because the old woman was, well, masturbating with a pillow. Pn Yasmin proceeded to say, "I have no idea what they're so concerned about. I do it myself!" Loud laughter ensued. I thought she was pretty batty then.
Next time I came across her was when
Sepet was about to be released. A uni friend introduced me to her, and I can't remember how long before I connected her to the same lady I saw telling that dirty joke in the hall. I had the usual reaction Malaysians would have had then. What? Sepet? What's it about? Huh, Malay movie right? Dowan to watch lah. Eh, Malay girl and Chinese boy? And in English? Intriguing. Okay, must watch.
I can't remember whether I saw the film first or whether I started following her blog first - those are two separate stories. I remember seeing the film and feeling elated - yes, this is getting much, much closer to the sort of Malaysian film I wanted to see. And yet not quite - I never did like the ambiguous ending; in my opinion, if ever there was an opportunity to milk emotions out of the audience, that was the moment, she just needed to make a choice - happy, tragic, or something else? Instead she gave us nothing. I still don't buy it, but I do recognise that that ending got people thinking and talking about it. People had different interpretations. And they discuss it. It worked that way.
That spring of 2005, I sent her an email about what I thought of
Sepet, and other thoughts on Malaysian film. She responded, and ended her email with "do give me a call when you come back on holiday." And included her phone number. I was rather blown away by it, actually. I came back, and called her up, rather nervously. She immediately suggested lunch. She was to go to Hotel Nikko to meet with potential investors - but that she was going to reject them politely, can't remember why. Sure enough she picked Japanese - I have a feeling it's her favourite, Japanese. It was an interesting conversation, mostly because she remained a complete enigma at the end of it. I felt like she didn't find me all that interesting, and I felt like I couldn't penetrate through what I thought were her masks - that constant smile, naughty sense of humour, occasionally defensive quips, a constant habit of deprecating herself or making her humility known. Later I was to learn that those weren't actually masks. I remember her surprising me by her admission that she fell asleep watching
Gladiator. You must remember, back then I didn't know of the existence of the arthouse crowd - the idea that people can actually disagree with a film I considered objectively superior was something I would learn, rather painfully, over the years following her blog and observing the world of Malaysian independent cinema.
Her blog. It soon followed that I started to read her writings obsessively, which I did over the course of a year or so. She had many wise things to say - usually procured from other famous directors I barely heard of, or famous philosophers or poets. I thought it pretentious, but not too pretentious - I got that she didn't just pull it out of her ass, that she really likes this stuff. Some of my favourite quotes in life I pulled from her blog. I also started to actively join in on the comments, like many people. She used to get around 200 comments per post, minimum. That became a sore point. I was always wanting to voice my opinions, and thought them legitimate - until other commenters would shoot it down, disparage it, and always in a most unpleasant manner. Once or twice, Pn Yasmin join in as well, criticising the way I tend to say what I say in complicated sentences and structures. She always had a terribly sarcastic way of doing it though. But mostly the problem were with the sycophants, who could see no wrong in what she said or did. After self-abusing myself there for so many months, I basically stopped reading her blog, except occasionally.
Still, there were the movies, and the ads on Youtube.
Gubra came along and I thought that was more interesting than
Sepet. I never got to see
Mukhsin. And meanwhile she was picking up awards here and there, so much that one took it for granted, really. Meanwhile, I stopped following her career so closely, and began to pay attention to the other Malaysian independent filmmakers ... much to my disappointment, generally.
I met up with her again, summer of 2006. I wasn't sure she still remembered me, but she said she does. At the time I was most interested with the fact that she announced a May 13th project, so I questioned her about it. Again her answers were elusive, always clouded with some wisecracking quip. All I got out of it was that it was not about what we thought it would be, that it would not be about the violence of that date in the year 1969.
Then I went to film school. And I followed news about her even less.
At that point, having grown up and matured rather more in terms of knowing world cinema and its relation to the Hollywood juggernaut, and where the Malaysian film industry lies within that landscape, I mostly thought of Pn Yasmin as a future competitor - my friend
Edmund says it best, an imaginary competitor. The truth is, I was never that enamoured with her films. Over time I found them dull, somewhat contrived, with a sameness that began to feel boring. I was not understanding the way some people were appreciating her films, why they got so emotional about it. But I always come back to the fact that I'd rather watch her films over other Malay movies any day. Ultimately, she remains the only Malaysian director to successfully occupy that space that is neither far right into the comfortable but trashy zone of Malay mainstream movies or the extreme left of self-centred, stubbornly arthouse Malaysian independent cinema.
I met Pn Yasmin for the third and last time at the Pusan International Film Festival last year, where she was screening
Muallaf. She still remembers me, she claims, which if true is a remarkable feat. I say that because so many people clamour for her attention, and I cannot say that my existence has made any impact on her in any way. Anyway, I asked her whether she was bored watching her film by then, she exclaimed that that was the first time she is watching
Muallaf on the big screen. We then talked about film festivals, how I was not really enjoying this one so far, and her saying that, well, she's rather more interested in seeing the cities than the films, usually. She then produces a Hacks sweet, and tells me to crack it in half with my teeth. I say she should do it. She says, nolah, after her teeth broken, how? Now that is so quintessential Yasmin.
I saw
Muallaf and, again, same thing, I wasn't entirely taken by the film, gave it a 6/10. But meanwhile, she already had another film in the works,
Talentime. Finally, I figured, she was gonna make something a little bit more mainstream. How wrong I was. (I know, some of you are wondering, who are you to dictate what she does? That would be missing the point. Not once did I dictate; and this is Yasmin Ahmad we're talking about, how the hell am I able to dictate? It was just a wish to see her do something I would genuinely enjoy. Perhaps a tad selfish. But it's honest.) Again I was somewhat disappointed. I gave it 7/10 in my opinion.
I wonder now what she thought of my reviews. Was she annoyed? Did she feel betrayed, considering that all three times I met her I always greeted her with a friendly face? It's all very presumptuous, almost embarrassing, actually, to ponder these thoughts. I hope she didn't care.
Ultimately, my feelings about Pn Yasmin over the years can best be described as love-hate. I am, all at once, proud that we have her winning awards for Malaysia, ambivalent about her films, irritated by her sycophants, admiring of her intellectual clarity, confident I could do better than her (despite not having produced a single shred of evidence, as of this moment, of being capable of directing a great feature), worried that my reviews will make her drop me from her Facebook account, and expecting her to be around long enough so that when I finally make my feature she can comment on it. Even if she didn't like it.
Such is her allure.
It's been said many times now, and I wish I could find a more elegant way of saying it, but it's true. We all took for granted she, the godmother of new Malaysian cinema, would be around longer. We thought she would make perhaps a dozen more films. Which, a year ago, would have seemed like a chore, since they're all gonna feel the same anyway - now, I wish she'd been around to make them coz I wouldn't have minded. So what if they're all just slightly disappointing to me, and similar to every other film she directed. Gimme that over [name your Malay studio film/Malaysian independent film]. She was also courageous, willing to fight the system, and she would've been a perfect, though perhaps unwitting, crusader towards the abolition of all crappy Malay studio movies, towards a better Malaysian cinema. That would've been the dream.
Coming back to the tributes towards Pn Yasmin. People talk about her films. Her ads. The truth is, the thing I like most about Yasmin Ahmad isn't her body of work. It's her.
She was just a really, really nice woman, great fun to hang out with. To me at least, her best virtue is her
sincerity.
Meanwhile, her passing also puts down forever the perpetual question that she has been plagued with in the past decade. You know which one.
It's been 48 hours and I'm still thinking about it. I still have her business card, her phone number on my contact list, and a few email correspondences in my mailbox.
But I'm slowly beginning to see that perhaps her impact will be more clearly seen years from now. That though I don't really know her, she has impacted the development in my path to becoming a filmmaker. It's all very subtle.
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